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Nigella Lawson and the High Cost of divorce

Celebrities

Nigella Lawson Eats A Banana
Nigella Lawson Eats A Banana (Photo credit: Kaptain Kobold)

Heartache and heartbreak are hard enough to endure but imagine having to go through the loss of a relationship while the world looks on. Such is the high price of celebrity divorce and the latest victim is the beautiful and talented television chef, Nigella Lawson. Shocking photos of Nigella apparently being choked by her husband, Charles Saatchi, surfaced in the media following the June 9th dinner at Scott’s restaurant in Mayfair, London, where the incident occurred. Saatchi’s advisors urged him to humble himself and admit a public apology for the assault. Saatchi denied any wrongdoing, saying he never assaulted her and in fact, was actually removing mucous from his wife’s nose. Nigella was stunned by the admonition of “nose-picking” and his refusal to apologize. She left Saatchi and their family home in Chelsea.

The two sides continued to disagree about the pictures; Saatchi claiming it was just a “playful tiff” and Lawson hurt and humiliated by the public’s assumption of her as victim of domestic violence and her husband as her tormentor. Insult was added to injury on July 7th, when Saatchi announced his intent to divorce his wife in the media instead of directly to her. Lawson, who had been waiting for a public apology, was blind-sided by his cruel divorce announcement. Lawson and Saatchi have been married for 10 years; Saatchi has claimed that the couple had become “estranged” the last few years. Saatchi claims that he had no choice but to act publicly since his wife “failed to defend” him with a statement to the media. In fact, Lawson has remained silent at the advice of her publicist so as not to further affect their children. Lawson (53) and Saatchi (70) have three teenage children from previous marriages that they were raising together.In addition to the “he said, she said” controversy, Lawson and Saatchi will have to fight over $150 million in shared assets, including their $12 million Chelsea, West London home. Both brought substantial assets into the marriage. Charles Saatchi is worth $100 million from the high-profile, highly-successful New York advertising firm, Saatchi and Saatchi. Nigella Lawson is a celebrity chef, bestselling author and television star with a net worth of $15 million. By the time lawyers for both sides duke it out in court and attempt to untangle the shared assets, those net worths will be considerably less.But it’s not just a monetary cost to this celebrity divorce. Saatchi had grown increasingly resentful of his wife’s high-profile career that he helped established. It’s a common theme in celebrity couples; one partner becomes the higher earner or the more recognized celebrity and the other gets bit by that green-eyed monster, jealousy. In Nigella’s case, there is the public humiliation at the hands of someone she loves to endure. It seems that Saatchi is determined to do whatever he can to make her suffer in the media. And then there are the children; children always suffer in a divorce. It can be lessened when parents work together to keep it private and amicable. But it’s incredibly painful to have your lives dragged through the media. In this case, it is Nigella and Saatchi’s children that are paying the ultimate price.

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Healthcare.gov: Is this failure a warning of what’s to come?

Politicians

English: President Barack Obama's signature on...
English: President Barack Obama’s signature on the health insurance reform bill at the White House, March 23, 2010. The President signed the bill with 22 different pens. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The official launch of online registration for government healthcare has been rife with disastrous glitches from the very beginning. This cataclysmic failure has spurred severe service outages across the country, and this chronically dysfunctional interface serves as foreshadowing for an epidemic of systematic organizational deficiencies. Healthcare.gov is only the first in a series of planned bureaucratic catastrophes.

Luckily, this informative overview exists to demystify the overly complex world of the medical legislation informally known as Obamacare. Being armed with the facts provided below can protect anyone during these times of economic uncertainty in which the destabilizing influence of expensive health treatments can suddenly arise.

The Internet Errors

The requirement of preemptive registration resulted in a complete system crash. The ability to input health data was also starkly limited. Security issues also seemed evident as certificates failed to show updated validations, and there was no indication of where confidential information would be stored.

Lack of Foresight and Oversight

The decision to mandate initial registration was a hastily made last-minute change that failed to consider the magnitude of public interest. This unfortunately coincided with a government shutdown, which left limited federal resources available to respond to claims of malfunctioning servers. The biggest mistake made by the Department of Health and Human Services was underestimating the massive influx of uninsured applicants.

To further complicate woes, a chief contractor behind the layout of healthcare.gov is expected to testify that additional time and money could not have salvaged the doomed enlistment effort. His official testimony will shed light on administrative laziness, and the legislative committee is expected to issue serious reprimands, but nothing will recompense the thousands of individuals deprived access to healthcare registration on the date promised to them years in advance. These problems were completely avoidable, but the team in place refused to promptly pay attention.

Proposed Solutions

The Obama Administration has conveniently remained mum on the topic of minor adjustments to the healthcare law, but Congressional Democrats have proposed implementing small delays to the overall roll-out. The dates for enforcing the individual mandate have become a focal point of discussions to modify Obamacare. Because citizens were not given feasible access to the online enrollment system, it would be unconstitutional to levy fines for their lack of registration.

The Foreboding Warning

If politicians cannot even tackle basic website programming, then they should not be trusted to manage the well-being of millions of Americans. Partisan divisions have made two factions that are fully noncoalescent, which means all future fixes will be the result of an incomplete compromise between two warring parties. Real health concerns have been forgotten by the incessant squabbling of politicians in their ivory towers. This means that every new initiative will only cause further societal strife and struggle. Members of Congress have expanded the breadth of their authority without grasping the technological realm. As a consequence, these politicians will continue overextending the limits of their power, and the public will be left to pick up the pieces.

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Twitter Weekly Updates for 2010-05-22

Misc

ING Direct – 2 Day Sale

Finance, Reviews

Today and tomorrow, ING Direct is having a “Financial Independence Days Sale”.

It’s a good sale. If you open a checking account or Sharebuilder account and you’ll get $76.  Apply for a mortgage and you’ll get $776 off of the closing costs.

I have accounts at 4 different banks.  Two of those were opened for specific debt-reduction purposes.  Of the others, one is used for most of my cash flow and bill payments, and the other is ING.   As of this moment, I have 15 accounts or sub-accounts with ING Direct.

Opening an account is painless and only takes a few minutes.   They are currently offering up to 1.25% in an interest-bearing checking account, though I’ve never qualified for more than .25%.  That account comes with overdraft protection, so you are charged interest instead of overdraft fees.

Once you have your first account set up, sub-accounts can be created in literally seconds.  Why would you want a bunch of sub-accounts?  I have a number of saving goals. Each of these goals has its own account at ING.  I can tell at a glance how much we have saved for our vacation next month and far away we are from affording my son’s braces.   My kids each have an account here because, currently, the interest rate is at 1.1%, which is miles ahead of most traditional banks.   Combined with the convenience of total online control, there’s no contest.

Money transfers are smooth.  I use one of my accounts as a transfer account to get money to and from two separate banks.

I also have a Sharebuilder account.  For those who aren’t familiar with it, it is a stock brokerage with low fees and a low barrier to entry.    If you set up an automatic investment, you get $4 stock trades with no minimum.  I’m not aware of any place cheaper.

That all sounds like a lot of ad copy and the links are affiliate links, but the truth is, I am just that happy with ING. I’ve never had an accounting error, or any problems at all.

The downside? Paper checks are verboten.  They will not accept paper checks, but you do have a check card to use.   You can hit 35,000 ATMS for free withdrawals, but any deposits are held for a few days before you have access to the funds.   It can also take 3-4 days to transfer money from ING to another bank.  I keep enough in the accounts that I’m always spending or transferring older deposits while I wait for the new ones to clear.

Even if you don’t like the bank, get a checking account, use it a few times and get $76 for very little trouble.   Open a Sharebuilder account, buy some stock and collect $76 for it.   Without an automatic payment, it will cost you less than $20 to buy, then sell the stock, netting you $56.

Who doesn’t like free money?

Link Roundup

Misc

Wrestling season is finally over.    Q1 is always such a busy time in my house.   Now, spring has sprung and it’s time to start enjoying the weather.

On to the links.

Finance:

Here’s an intro guide to settling IRS debts.

Only someone who’s never had to deal with the full default process could think this was a good idea.  The Department of Education outsources its collections for a reason.  Eliminating private lenders will raise the students’ costs and eliminate options for troubled debtors.  Yes, I worked in the industry for several years.

The Guide to Buying Glasses Online.   I currently have 6 pairs of glasses that cost me  a grand total of $150, with no loss in quality.

PenFed:  Credit cards done right.

Not finance:

This is the coolest picture I’ve seen this year.  Space pics for under $1000.  NASA could take lessons, I think.

I miss the days when napping was possible.

38 Random Acts of Robyn. I’m thinking about incorporating this as a 30 day project.

Lawdog has a great idea to fix the problems with our legislature.  It’s a beautiful Constitutional Amendment.  If they have to play by the rules they set, the might start setting better rules.

“Only excepting such limited protection as offered by Article One, Section Six, Congress is hereby prohibited from exempting its Members from each, any, and all effects, duties or obligations rendered upon any citizen, or citizens, by any Law, Tax, or other action passed by Congress.”

Shattering Taboos

Finance, Relationships

Taboo
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ta·boo

-adjective

1.  proscribed by society as improper or unacceptable: taboo words.

There is a societal prohibition against talking about money, especially actual money.  Talking about a deal, or the hypothetical bundle you lost on the Super Bowl is  ok, but discussing how much money you make, or how much you have saved for retirement is almost as bad as talking about sex.  In many social circles, it’s far worse.

Money is one of the primary causes of divorce, second only to infidelity.   It can cause myriad problems, including anxiety, depression, paranoia, impotence, impulse spending, gambling, social isolation, suicide,  and murder.   Yet even therapists hesitate to discuss finance with their patients.

Occasionally to the chagrin of my family and friends, I’ve almost completely destroyed that taboo in myself.   After spending a year and a half writing about everything I do financially, I’ve found myself with very little hesitation to talk about my finances in real life.   I don’t mind discussing my credit card debt, my projections on paying off my mortgage, or almost anything else, with the exception of my salary.   I’ve never seen anything good come from coworkers comparing paystubs.   Somebody always gets hurt feelings.

Aside from that one exception, I think it’s healthy to talk about money.  How many kids launch into adulthood financially clueless because their parents wouldn’t talk about money?    How many marriages could be saved if couples would talk about their financial problems before they became financial disasters?

How can you go about breaking down the mental barrier to talking about money? Starting a personal finance blog and writing three to four times per week for a couple of years isn’t a practical solution for everyone.

Start small.

Mention the fact that you have a credit card balance(assuming you do) when you are talking to a friend.   Suggest a coworker appeal his property taxes, or offer a couple of tips to help your cousin negotiate her rent.

Most importantly, start having these conversations with your spouse/significant other/life partner.   If you can plan to spend the rest of your life with someone, you can certainly plan to discuss one of the most important topics in your life with her.   If you can’t, are you really a good fit?

Try it.  Break down that taboo. Your life will be better for it.

Are you afraid to talk about money?

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