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Don’t Screw Future-You

Finance, Life

A conversation between me and my temporally displaced self.
Future Me: Excuse me, Jason?
Me: Yes?
FMe: <Slap!>
Me: May I ask what that was for?
FMe: Of course.
Me: What was that for, jerk?
FMe: That was payback for all of the hell you have put me through.
Me: What?!?  I’ve never even met you, before.
FMe: Of course you have.  I am future-you, and I’m sick of getting screwed by past-me, that is, you.
Me: Huh?
FMe: Listen close.  You’re not  the sharpest brick in the box and I don’t want to explain this twice.
Me: ???
FMe: A long time ago, when you first met our wife, you were dumb.
Me: I don’t appreciate….
FMe: Shut up.  I was dumb then, too.  Remember?  You…err…we bought a new truck, built an addition on our…err…your…err…whomever’s house, got married in the same year.  On top of many other expensive decisions.  Do your recall?
Me: Yes, I do.  So what?
FMe: If that wasn’t enough, you and your smoking-hot bride are still shopping like you’re rich. You drive a new car.  Your kids wear new clothes.  You’ve got a house full of new furniture.  How did you pay for all of that?
Me: Naturally, I charged it.  Zero payments, zero interest for a year!  Pretty smart, huh?
FMe: What happens in a year?
Me: I don’t know.  I’ve got a full year to figure that out.
FMe: <Slap!>  I’ll tell you what happens!  Future-you, that’s me, gets screwed!   Your raise didn’t come through.  You had a baby. The truck broke down.  Your wife took maternity leave.  A roommate moved out.  You took a loss in the stock market.  You didn’t plan!  You had no savings to cover any of those problems because you were too busy servicing debt to pay for your current life.
Me: How was I to know?
FMe: <Slap!>  Life happens!  You never know what is coming next.  You need to plan and save for what might happen.  Otherwise, you’ll just accumulate more debt to be serviced by yours-truly.  That is not acceptable.
Me:  So?  What are you going to do about it?
FMe: <Slap!>
Me: Really?  Again?
FMe: <Slap!>  I’m struggling to pay your debt. Your son starts college next year, but you’ve left me completely unable to help.  Your daughter wants to get married in a couple of years, but the Father-of-the-Bride can’t afford a tux.  My wife, your beatiful bride, wants a vacation that I can’t afford.   You’ve screwed me, dude.
Me: I’m sorry.  What can I do to fix it?
FMe: Buy me dinner, first.
Me: Huh?!?!?
FMe: Stop the excess spending. Spend less than you make, for a change.  No credit.
Me: None?
FMe: None.  Nada.  Zip.  Zilch.  Only spend what you can afford. Budget.  Pay off those nasty bills.  Don’t leave me hanging.
Me: So, what you’re saying is that, if I don’t have the money, I shouldn’t buy it?
FMe: Exactly.  That’s the path to wealth, freedom, and financial independence.  Live in the real world.
Me: Gee, thanks, Future-Me!  Now I know.
FMe: And knowing is half the battle.

What would your future-you have to say to you?

 

Budgeting tips – sticking to your budget

Finance

Image by adriagarcia at Flickr.com
Image by adriagarcia at Flickr.com

If you are looking to get out of debt, or you are currently debt-free and want to stay that way, then it is important that you get a grip of  your financial situation and live within your means.

A good way to do this is to create a budget as this gives you a clear indication of  how much money is coming in, how much is going out and also highlights any areas where you may need to make cut backs should you be falling short each month.

Once you have sorted out the figures and made necessary amendments, for example paying bills by direct debit in order to make savings or cutting existing debts by carrying out a balance transfer to a lower rate credit card, it is time to start focussing on the lifestyle changes.

As you will find, it is one thing to create a budget and quite another to stick to it, but by adhering to the following   steps and exercising a certain amount of will power, you should be able to ensure that you live within your means and resist the urge to reach for that credit card.

Keep focussed

Before you start to look at how you can stick to your budget you need to clarify why you need to stick to your budget!

A budget can initially seem like something that has been devised with the sole intention of stopping you having fun and buying or doing the things that you want. So it is important to remember that, though some cutbacks may be necessary in the short term, a budget is a long-term strategy that will allow you to take control of your finances and, all being well, live a happy life that is free from the worry of excessive debt.

Change your habits

Unfortunately, a successful budget can require a change in lifestyle and this can be one of the most difficult things to adhere to.

For example, if you have previously enjoyed eating out regularly then you may have to make cut backs in this area to ensure that you are living within your means. But, instead of seeing this as a negative, try to focus on the positives and remember the reasons why you are budgeting.

And a change in habits doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to cut back on your enjoyment of life and it may actually open your eyes to other pursuits you may not have previously considered.

For example, instead of eating out try preparing a meal at home and turn your dining room into a restaurant. This means that you can still have the fine dining experience but at a fraction of the price and without the worry of making a reservation!

Shop smarter

Lists figure heavily when creating a personal budget and list-making is a habit that you should get used to when trying to stick to your budget.

When budgeting it is vitally important to avoid impulse buying and a great way to do this is to always make a list of things you need before you go shopping.

This means that you will have a clear idea of what you need and you will be less inclined to make random purchases that may just turn out to be an unnecessary drain on your finances. It’s also worth mentioning at this point that you should always differentiate and prioritise the things you need over the things you simply want.

If you are unsure how to make the distinction then put off making the purchase for a couple of days and then reconsider if you actually need it. This cooling off period will often convince you that you can do without it and save you money.

In addition, savings can be made on your shopping by simply swapping big name brands for supermarket own varieties, using discount coupons and looking for any special offers.

Overall, it is important to be fully focussed and committed to your budget plan and to be aware that a change in finances may require a change in lifestyle. But a few short term changes may well add up to better finances in the long term.

Article written by Les Roberts, budget reporter at Moneysupermarket.com.

 

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A Moment of Clarity

Finance

Money money money!
Image by Matt Stratton via Flickr

Ten years ago, I buried myself in debt. There was no catastrophic emergency or long-term unemployment, just a series of bad decisions over the course of years.

We bought a (short) series of new cars, a house full of furniture, electronics, hundreds of books and movies, and so much more.   We threw a wedding on credit and financed an addition on our house.   We didn’t gamble or drink it away, we just spent indiscriminately.  We have a ton of stuff to show for it and a peeling credit card to prove it.

What changed?

In October 2007, we found out brat #3 was on the way.    Don’t misunderstand, this was entirely intentional, but our…efficiency caught us by surprise.   It took several years to get #2.   We weren’t expecting #3 to happen in just a couple of weeks.   #2 wasn’t even a year old when we found out she was going to be a big sister.  That’s two kids in diapers and three in daycare at the same time.

The technical term for this is “Oh crap”.

I spent weeks poring over our expenses, trying to find a way to make our ends meet, or at least show up in the same zip code occasionally.

I finally made my first responsible financial decision…ever.   I quit smoking. At that point, I had been smoking a pack a day or more for almost 15 years.   With the latest round of we’re-going-to-raise-the-vice-tax-to-convince-people-to-drop-their-vices-then-panic-when-people-actually-drop-their-because-we-made-them-too-expensive taxes, I was spending at least $60 per week, at least.

Interesting side story: A few years ago, Wisconsin noticed how many Minnesotans were crossing the border for cheap smokes and decided to cash in by raising their cigarette taxes.   The out-of-state market immediately dried up.  Econ 101.

So I quit, saving $250 per month.

Our expenses grew to consume that money, which we were expecting.  (Remember, we were expecting a baby!)   Unfortunately, our habits didn’t change.   We still bought too much, charged too much on our credit cards, and used our overdraft protection account every month.  At 21% interest!

Nothing else changed for another year and a half.  My wife would buy stuff I didn’t like and we’d fight about it.  I’d buy stuff she didn’t like and we’d fight about it.   When we weren’t arguing about it, we’d just silently spend it all as fast as we could.

Bankruptcy was looming. We had $30,000 on our credit cards and our overdraft protection account was almost maxed out.  Have you ever thought you’d have to sell your house quickly?

One day, while I was researching bankruptcy attorneys, I ran across Dave Ramsey.   When I got to daycare that evening to pick up the kids, I noticed they had The Total Money Makeover on the bookshelf, so I asked to borrow it.

I read the book twice, had a very frank discussion with my wife about the possibility of bankruptcy, and we set out on the path to financial freedom together.

What made you decide to handle your finances responsibly?  Or, perhaps more importantly, what’s holding you back?

Cooking Poor

Finance

Frugal cooking can be an intimidating concept.   It’s easy to turn a meal into a huge expense, but it’s not that hard to trim your grocery budget without sacrificing variety and flavor.   It just takes some planning and a few money-saving techniques.  We usually feed our family of five, often with guests, for about $100 per week.

Schedule your meals. Find or make a weekly meal planner.  I recommend this or this.  Cross out the meals you don’t need to worry about due to your schedule that week.  If you won’t be home, you don’t have to cook that meal.  Fill in the meals in the remaining slots.  Keep your schedule in mind. If you get home from work at 5:30 and have to be somewhere by 6:30, dinner needs to be something quick. Also, make sure you include every side dish you will be serving.  Now, look at the recipe for each dish in every meal.  Write down everything you need to make all of the food you plan to eat that week.   While planning your meals, think about how to use your leftovers.   If you cook chicken breasts one day, the leftovers can be chicken nuggets the next.

Take inventory.  Take your meal plan and a pen while you look through all of your cabinets and your refrigerator.  Why buy what you already have? If you already have steaks in the freezer, don’t waste your money buying more.  If you have it, cross it off of your meal plan shopping list.  Whatever is left is your shopping list.   Review it.  Is there anything that can be combined or eliminated?  Is there a key ingredient for a sauce that’s missing?

Don’t forget the staples.  If flour or sugar is on sale, stock up.  Anything you use on a regular basis is a staple, buy it when it’s cheap.

Build a shopping list from your meal plan.  When you are in the store, stick to your list.   It’s hard, but avoid impulse purchases at all costs. Don’t shop hungry, don’t buy things just because they are on sale, and don’t dawdle.  Get what you need and get out.

Avoid pre-processed food.  We slice and shred our own cheese.    Buying the pre-shredded cheese costs an extra $5 and saves just 5 minutes.  Don’t buy pre-sliced apples or anything that will only save a few minutes for several dollars of cost.

Every couple of weeks, I cook a large pot of either beans or rice and keep it in the refrigerator.  Almost every meal that we cook gets a cup or two of beans or rice added to it.  It doesn’t alter the flavor much, but it adds a few extra servings for pennies.  It’s a healthy way to stretch any meal on the cheap.

We have a large bowl in the refrigerator filled with mixed greens.   We buy whatever salad-like greens are on sale and prepare the large salad all at once.   Most meals start with a salad, which makes it easier to fill up without relying on the protein dish, which is generally the most expensive part of a meal.  As a dedicated meat-eater, it took some getting used to, but it’s a good meal–cheap and healthy.

Cook enough for at least 3 meals.  That will eliminate 2/3 of the work involved in cooking.   Plan ahead to make your meals simple and easy.

Freeze the leftovers in usable sizes.   Stock up on semi-disposable meal-sized containers.   Freeze some in single-serving sizes for work, and others in family-size servings for last minute meals at home.  Preparing for last minute meals keeps you from serving garbage or takeout when life gets in the way of your plans.

Avoid wasting leftovers.   Wasted food is wasted money.

When you are done cooking meat, take any drippings or scraps and throw them into the slow-cooker along with any vegetable scraps laying around.  Cook it overnight, then strain it into an ice cube tray.  You now have stock/broth ready to be added to any recipe.

Plan for serial meals. Chicken breast leftover from today’s meal can become chicken nuggets tomorrow, to be shredded into chicken salad the next day.

When there isn’t enough left for a full serving, we put the remains in a resealable bag in the freezer.   When we accumulate enough to fill our slow-cooker, we dump in all of the bags with a couple cups of water.    I look through the refrigerator for any leftovers that have been overlooked that week or any vegetables  getting close to being too old.  It all gets cut up and added to the cooker to cook on low all day.  I rarely add seasoning because everything going in the pot tastes good.  We never get the same meal twice and our “free soup” is never bland.

That’s how we cook cheap, without sacrificing too much time.  How do you save money cooking?

This post is a blast from the past.  Originally posted here in January 2010.

5 Ways to Change Your Spending Habits

Finance

Sexy smoker
Image by BBQ Junkie via Flickr

If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’re going to keep getting what you you’ve always gotten.  One of the hardest things about getting out of debt is changing your habits.     You need to break your habits if you’re going to get yourself to a new place, financially.

How can you do that?  Habits aren’t easy to break.  Ask any smoker, junkie, or overeater what it takes.  There are a lot of systems to break or establish habits, but they don’t all work for everyone.

Here are my suggestions:

  1. Commit to just 30 days.  I’m a big fan of doing new things for 30 days.   If you can do it for a month, you can do it forever, no matter what “it” is.   For just one month, don’t buy anything.  I don’t mean avoid buying groceries or toiletries and I certainly don’t mean to stock up on new crap the day before your 30 day spending fast or rush out for a shopping spree on day 31.  Just don’t buy anything for a month, no exceptions but the things necessary to stay alive and healthy.  No movies, no games, no cars, no toys, and no expensive meals.  Just 1 month.
  2. Switch methods. If you pay for everything with a credit card, restrict yourself to just cash.  If you pay cash for everything, switch to a credit card.  Breaking your long-established habits is a way to get used to spending consciously: taking the time to think about what you are doing, instead of just spending mindlessly.
  3. Identify your spending triggers. I can’t go into a book store and come out empty handed.  So, I avoid bookstores.   My wife has problems with clothing stores.   A friend can’t walk out of a music store without some body piercing equipment.  What are your triggers?  What makes you spend money without thinking?   Figure out what those things are and then avoid them like the plague…or the clap.
  4. Quit buying things for pleasure. Buying things makes us feel good.  It sends a rush of endorphins through our bodies.  The more we get that rush, the more we crave that rush, so the more we do to get it.   You need to stop that.  Before you buy something, ask yourself if it’s something you actually need, or if you just want a pick-me-up.
  5. Avoid shopping online.  E-commerce sites make it far too easy to buy things at a moment’s notice.   You don’t have to think about what you are doing or if you actually need whatever you are buying.  You just buy.   The best way too avoid them is to delete your credit card information from any site that save the information and delete the sites from your bookmarks.  Whatever you can do to slow down the buying process will make it easier to avoid buying things, which can soon be stretched into NOT buying things at all.

Habits—especially bad habits—are hard to break.  There is an entire self-help niche dedicated to breaking habits.  Hypnotists, shrinks, and others base their careers on helping others get out of the grip of their bad habits, or conning them into thinking it is easy to do with some magic system.   How do you avoid or break bad habits?

 

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