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Net Worth Update

The remodel of our inherited new house is about done. The bills have basically been paid and the insurance checks have been cashed.

Now that it’s all (more or less) done, I’m finding my financial situation has changed a bit. My credit card is paid off, except for our regular monthly expenses and a couple of remodeling expenses that will be paid off in the next week or so. Our mortgage is within site of being paid off, and we have a rental property that is mortgage-free.

With all of the changes, I took the time to measure the difference.

Let me tell you how nervous this post makes me. My business partner is under the impression that I no don’t care about our business because I no longer have any worries.

That’s crap.

Yes, our net worth has gone up $329,000. That’s not nothing, but it’s hardly enough to retire on.

$113,000 of it is in retirement accounts. I mean, great, we’re a bit ahead of where we need to be, but it’s not like that money is putting food on the table for us this week.

$177,600 of it is in our rental property. Which doesn’t start driving income until February. Today, it’s a $25,000 money sink. That’s money we would have had to spend to sell it, even if we didn’t want to keep it.

There’s a $10,000 car that we need to deal with, we’ve paid off our credit card debt, and we have an extra $10,000 in the bank.

So, yes, we are in a much better place financially. That’s a comfort, long-term. Day-to-day? Our credit card payment has been pushed to our mortgage, so that’s not extra spending money. We don’t know exactly how much of the $10,000 in the bank still needs to be spent on the house, and we don’t know how we’re going to reorganize our vehicle situation.

That’s a lot of uncertainty that, at most, involves $20,000. Again, it’s not nothing, but it’s not a lot. It won’t cover our barebones expenses for 6 months. We pay $15,000 per year just in daycare, and we need to put braces on a kid next year.

We are in a much better place, but I can’t stop hustling.

2010 Budget Changes

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We’re making some changes to how we manage our finances this year. Our destination isn’t changing, but the trip is.

All of the cards are going away. Not necessarily destroyed, but certainly inconvenient. There’s a $7000 overdraft protection account attached to our debit cards. There’s no need for an “emergency” card. If it’s truly an emergency, we are covered. We are going to destroy some and ice the rest.
We’re going to go “cash only”. We’ve going to the envelope system. There will be an envelope for grocery money, gas money, discretionary money, and baby crap. If there isn’t enough money in an envelope, it will have to come out of another envelope. If we don’t have enough money, we’ll have to do without, instead of spending imaginary money at 10% interest. Gas will be the exception, so we don’t have to bundle the kids up to pay for gas. No money, no spendy. We tried a “virtual envelope”, with every purchase tracked by category in a spreadsheet, but it didn’t work. Real cash, real empty envelopes. Discretionary money covers school activities, miscellaneous household item, and anything else that pops up.
We’re going to start the “30 day list”. If we want something, we’ll put it on a list. If we still want it 30 days later, it will be okay, provided there’s money for it. This is part of what the discretionary budget is for.
My wife is getting $50/month “blow money”. Absolutely unaccountable. If she doesn’t have this vent, the whole system will fall apart.

This is all stuff my wife and I have talked about and agreed to, but now, it’s organized and laid out. We HAVE to do it or something similar. We are both on board with this plan. We should see our debt management plan skyrocket, without feeling like we are missing out on life.

What D&D Taught Me About Finance

Finance

I admit it: I’m a geek. I’m not a hobby geek who only geeks on the weekends. I’m a full-fledged, licensed and certified geek. I am a geek about so many wondrous things that it’s hard to list them all. My wife knows, my kids know. It’s not much of a secret. One of my many geek qualifications is my sordid history of gaming. Role-playing, tabletop only. If that’s gibberish, it’s okay. Nobody needs to understand my geekitude but me.

I started playing Dungeons and Dragons more than 15 years ago. There were no live chickens or human sacrifice. Just a small group of geeks, proto-geeks, pseudo-geeks, and the occasional nerd playing DnD in a poorly lit room for several hours. We laughed, we cried, we fought evil, saved the world, and raised the stock price of an assortment of caffeinated beverage companies.

As the man said, I told you that, so I could tell you this:

DnD taught me many things. It taught me THAC0 calculation, dice-identification, and the fact that no woman, anywhere, considers tabletop roleplaying to be an alpha-male trait. “I’m a level 73 kinder warrior-mage-thief” is not a pickup line anywhere in the world, even Gen-Con. Remember that. Also remember, the singular of dice is die. If your are talking about one, it’s a die. Get it wrong and I will throw a bag full of dice at you and make you dig out the purple, sparkles-like-a-vampire, 27-sided die from among the hundreds of other dice.

DnD also taught me some surprising things about the world of personal finance, which is not a part of a planar campaign.

All the best toys cost too much. At the current exchange rate of 10 silver pieces(sp) to 1 gold piece(gp), potions of extra healing will drive you into debtor’s prison. Just as a sword of extra-slaying +10 will cost you everything you earned raiding that castle for the last 6 Wednesday evenings, so will a big screen TV set you back a full month’s salary. Don’t risk your life or sell your life’s energy for something fleeting, just because it’s “the best” or the newest gadget, geegaw, or artifact.

Never sell your soul for a castle or a horse. When the Baatezu come to offer you a “no money down, 0% for a year, all-expenses-paid, surrender-your-first-born” deal for a castle or the prettiest horse in the park, take a cue from the former First Lady. Just say no. Spending money today that you have to pay for tomorrow is almost always a bad idea. Don’t spend your soul, spend your savings. Don’t buy something until you can afford it. A Lexus or an Arabian, a mansion or a rambler. Are any of them worth auctioning your future?

Your armor isn’t stronger just because it’s shiny. A suit of Full-Plate of Protection-From-the-Charms-of-Bar-Wenches +5 may look pretty, but it’s not going to help against the orcs, kobolds, or trolls unless, of course, they are wearing skirts and sitting on a bar-stool above a sawdust-covered floor. Does the shiny new iPod really provide a benefit, or is it just a shiny gadget to woo the ladies?

A good sword is necessary to keep your stuff. This is a not a call to self-defense, or mugger, err, orc-slaying–though why that’s ever viewed as a negative is beyond me. You need to be aggressive in defending your loot. Call your credit card companies and demand they turn over the booty, err, lower your rates. Tell your friends to step away from the Diamond Ray of Disappearance, err, expensive outings or you will chop off their heads, err…no wait, that one can stay. I think my friends may be scared of me.

[ad name=”inlineleft”]The promised reward for completing an adventure isn’t the only way to make money. Sure, the local duke(your boss), may be willing to pay you a chest of gems(your salary) for defending the town from the ravages of the Tarrasque(your job), but that isn’t the only way to make money. You could do your job, collect your pay, and go home at night, but why? Don’t forget to pick up the loot along the way. If you spot the shiny penny, grab it, whether it’s abandoned gold, a new idea for a niche-blog, or a chance to turn your leisure hobbies into money. There are thousands of ways to make money outside of your day job. Every one will help your bottom line.

It takes cunning to slay the dragon. When tackling your debt(dragon), wading in swinging your sword may be emotionally satisfying, in the short term, but long term, it’s just a painful method of reminding yourself that you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup. Make plans. Have a strategy. Come out a winner. Then, sit down for beer and dragon steak. Goal-less, plan-less attacks fail in the long-term.

Update: This post has been included in the Carnival of Personal Finance.

The Friday Tax

Finance

I’ve been at the doctor’s office every time my kids have been scheduled to get shots. I let them know what to expect before the shot, hold their legs still during, and comfort them after. It’s not pleasant, but it is a bonding experience. It builds trust. My kids know that if I tell them something won’t hurt, it won’t, because I tell them when it will. Unpleasantness is never a surprise. Somehow, this policy hasn’t led to a fear of the doctor. They always know what to expect and how tough I’m expecting them to be, so they don’t worry.

Last Friday, it was time for the unpleasant duty. Both of the girls had checkups and one was due for shots. I took the afternoon off to meet my wife and kids at the clinic.

It was a beautiful day. It was warm, the sun was shining, and traffic was light. The windows were down and music was playing; it was an almost perfect start to the weekend.

Did I mention I have a lead foot?

“No, honey, I don’t think we need to buy that” certainly loses some of it’s effect shortly after “Uh, honey? I just paid the voluntary driving-too-fast tax.”

For days, I heard, “Well, I wasn’t the one who got a speeding ticket!” This sounds like nagging, but it’s not. I am normally the one issuing reminders about spending and saving. This time, it was her turn. It’s not my job to hold her accountable. It’s our job–jointly–to hold each other accountable. If I mess up–and I did–she is perfectly within her rights to hold me feet to the fire. I certainly don’t hesitate when the roles are reversed.

I haven’t had a ticket in almost 12 years, so this isn’t a habitual problem. It is an expense that should have been avoided.

Now, I’ve got to take a day off of work and go to court to try to keep it off of my record, so it won’t affect my insurance rates. That means court costs on top of the fine.

Monetary weakness or a lapse in judgment can derail goals. We haven’t destroyed our budget for the month, but it’s not an insignificant amount of money. I try figure enough padding into our budget that this isn’t painful, but it is money that could have been “snowflaked” onto our debt. It could have meant another $150 in the vacation fund. That is disappointing.

It’s time to establish the habit of driving the speed limit.

Update: This post has been included in the Money Hacks Carnival.

Twitter Weekly Updates for 2010-06-19

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RT @bargainr: Life in North Korea is absolutely dreadful http://nyti.ms/dAcL26 #
RT @bitfs: Weekly Favorites and Gratitude!: My Favorite Posts this Week Jeff at Deliver Away Debt threw together the .. http://bit.ly/9J0gGo #
@LiveRealNow is giving away a copy of Delivering Happiness(@dhbook). Follow and RT to enter. http://bit.ly/czd31X # #
Baseless claims, biased assumptions, poor understanding of history. Don't bother. #AnimalSpirits #KeynesianCult #
RT @zappos: Super exciting! "Delivering Happiness" hit #1 on NY Times Bestseller list! Thanks everyone! Details: http://bit.ly/96vEfF #
@ericabiz Funny, we found a kitten in a box last week. Unfortunately, it was abandoned there, not playing. Now, we have a 5th cat. in reply to ericabiz #

Saturday Roundup

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Now, for the part you’ve all been waiting for…

This week’s roundup: Awesome Peel

It’s time to buy school supplies again. Don’t let it break the bank.

Chewbacca on a squirrel, fighting Nazis.

A pizza peel with a conveyor belt. The pinnacle of pizza-making awesomeness.

Have you ever looked into the psychology of a restaurant menu?

Carnivals I’ve participated in:

Carnival of Personal Finance #267 at Beating Broke posted A Budget Isn’t Enough.

Wealth Informatics hosted the Festival of Frugality and posted Payday Loans Suck.

Canajun Finances hosted the Best of Money Carnival and posted Life Altering Lessons I Learned From My Debt.

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